Nature’s Talking

A sucking chest wound is Nature’s way of telling you to slow down.

You’ve tried every way possible to avoid being stuck in catastrophic situations and always find yourself stuck in near fatal physical or emotional circumstances.  There’s an old saying;

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

The lesson is that if the repeated results always end in harm, then maybe you should take a hint and give up trying to win an unwinable game.

Here’s an unexpected twist that I picked up from this application.

alcoholismFor 35 years I drank like a fish.  It landed me in the most dire health situations, extreme encounters with the law, and utterly destroyed all my family relations.  I earnestly started A.A. a half dozen times.  It was in A.A. that I learned the above definition for insanity.  They relate it to the practice of drinking itself.  Therein lies the irony.

Near death, I finally wised up and thought of the saying in terms of trying to quit drinking over and over by turning to A.A.  What finally saved my bacon was to stop turning to A.A.!  Over 30 years I tried using A.A. and following their “Program” in many different ways.  90 meetings in 90 days, get a sponsor, follow the steps, share with others etc etc ad infinitum.  All these plans ended disastrously as I always ended up back on the sauce.  Finally I quit the insanity and tried a different way.  I quit going to A.A.  It worked.

It worked.  But not all by itself, and there’s the rub.  I am stone-cold serious when I say that I am convinced that the method I found will work not only for alcohol addiction but for any other destructive behavior–over eating, compulsive gambling, sexual compulsions–anything that anyone finds detrimental and wishes to quit.

Want to know the method I found?

In case you do, the answer is in the comments section.

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9 thoughts on “Nature’s Talking

    1. I learned to stop trying to try to stop. That doesn’t mean I surrendered in the way that I finally gave myself over to my compulsions (addictions) and began to let them consume me without objection. It means that I stop using my own resources to combat the practice. Instead I took to heart the lesson of the third step and turned my will and life over to God and let Him take care of it.

      The trouble I had with A.A. is that in every instance I felt that once I “completed” step 3 I was urged to begin taking my own will back again. I was told that I could never be cured of this disease. I find that impossible to believe if God is the proper one to whom the ailment should be surrendered. The ailment is NOT the addiction (compulsion). The ailment is in trying to assert (or RE assert) my own will in trying to control it, even if there is a brief lull by temporarily handing over my will to what A.A. calls a HIGHER Power.

      This time, in prayer, I tearfully prayed for God to take the addiction away and admitted that I had no power to do so by myself–not even a little. I gave up trying to give up trying. I felt the compulsion leave me immediately. I have had similar experiences and knew it, so I FOLLOWED up THAT prayer with another.

      “Now what do I do, God. I’ve failed at this before.” The answer I received by way of firm spiritual reply was, “You gave it to me. Don’t take it back–no matter what.”

      Temptations still came, stronger at first but gradually diminishing and less in frequency until now they have become non-existent. I prefer to think of the temptations as attempts by Satan to draw me back in. At first I would try to argue with the Tempter, but that always led to frustration and an increase in the temptation. Finally I learned the lesson (and applied it) of the answer to my second prayer. I let God have it.

      I responded to Satan with a variation of the following, “This is not my problem anymore, Devil. I’m not going to argue with you about it. If you want to discuss it with someone, then you should go talk to God. I gave it to Him to handle for me.” Whenever I answered the temptation like this (and it was very difficult sometimes) the temptation would immediately go away. I have NO idea that Satan ever went to God with the issue. The Devil already knew who would win the argument between God and Satan.

      There are several other tricks I picked up along the way. This is basically it.

      I’m going to turn this into a post, btw.

      Thanks for asking.

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    1. I agree that A.A. is depressing, and for me it was dangerous. I was constantly told that my compulsion could not be removed–in other words, that the God to whom I turned over my will and life was not strong enough to heal me of the problem.

      I learned to stop trying to try to stop. That doesn’t mean I surrendered in the way that I finally gave myself over to my compulsions (addictions) and began to let them consume me without objection. It means that I stop using my own resources to combat the practice. Instead I took to heart the lesson of the third step and turned my will and life over to God and let Him take care of it.

      The trouble I had with A.A. is that in every instance I felt that once I “completed” step 3 I was urged to begin taking my own will back again. I was told that I could never be cured of this disease. I find that impossible to believe if God is the proper one to whom the ailment should be surrendered. The ailment is NOT the addiction (compulsion). The ailment is in trying to assert (or RE assert) my own will in trying to control it, even if there is a brief lull by temporarily handing over my will to what A.A. calls a HIGHER Power.

      This time, in prayer, I tearfully prayed for God to take the addiction away and admitted that I had no power to do so by myself–not even a little. I gave up trying to give up trying. I felt the compulsion leave me immediately. I have had similar experiences and knew it, so I FOLLOWED up THAT prayer with another.

      “Now what do I do, God. I’ve failed at this before.” The answer I received by way of firm spiritual reply was, “You gave it to me. Don’t take it back–no matter what.”

      Temptations still came, stronger at first but gradually diminishing and less in frequency until now they have become non-existent. I prefer to think of the temptations as attempts by Satan to draw me back in. At first I would try to argue with the Tempter, but that always led to frustration and an increase in the temptation. Finally I learned the lesson (and applied it) of the answer to my second prayer. I let God have it.

      I responded to Satan with a variation of the following, “This is not my problem anymore, Devil. I’m not going to argue with you about it. If you want to discuss it with someone, then you should go talk to God. I gave it to Him to handle for me.” Whenever I answered the temptation like this (and it was very difficult sometimes) the temptation would immediately go away. I have NO idea that Satan ever went to God with the issue. The Devil already knew who would win the argument between God and Satan.

      There are several other tricks I picked up along the way. This is basically it.

      I’m going to turn this into a post, btw.

      Thanks for asking.

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      1. Well then this is no coincidence because I have been working on giving things to God. It has been recently that I have really overcome many of my issues. (I have plenty more!) I struggled so long on my concept of God that it kept me from moving forward.

        I see your point about recovery and recovered. I like that and I will use it in the future!

        You think I have experience in writing? I am rolling on the floor. I don’t other then high school, and life etc., but I do read excessively and maybe that is where it comes from.

        I have to keep this short as I am studying for a state exam that I will be taking tomorrow. I am getting my Real Estate License in the state I currently reside in after saying I would never go back into it. God loves messing with our heads! 😉

        Also our Hospice people will be showing up. I live in and take care of my Mother-in-law who has Dementia and Heart issues. My Father-in-law passed in February of last year he had Alzheimer’s. At least it is just one now. I would not wish it on anybody care giving for crazy people, especially people whom have had issues with addiction. OK enough I will be back tomorrow night or Friday.
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        1. Reading is essential to being a good writer. Do you not even keep a journal of some sort? That counts you know? Grocery lists — not so much. 🙂 Blog writing and comments and replies also count very strongly.

          Good luck on your exam.

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          1. Passed the exam. Thank goodness did not want to have to do that again! As for writing. well in high school I did dabble. When I first got into recovery I did journal. eee gads the things that came out. I started art journaling over all the negativity. I will post one of my first ones.

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